IN PARTNERSHIP WITH 6 FIGURE CHICK CONSULTNG®
For Us Daughters is a community that gets why you can’t just sit down and let somebody else handle it, giving you systems that weave care and growth into your life and real access to people who can change what’s possible.
You make “figuring it out” look easy, but you’re the only one who knows what it really cost.
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First. First-gen. The eldest. The only.
Not always the firstborn. But always the first call.
You gone make it happen, every time. Nothing gets past you, except prioritizing you.
You’re the go-to. The fixer. The therapist. The bank. The peacekeeper. To your friends, your family, your partner, hell, even at work. Most people couldn’t do what you do before lunchtime, in a month. But you shouldn’t have to either.
For Us Daughters is where you finally give yourself permission to put some of that down. Not because you can’t carry it. Because you shouldn’t have to carry it alone.
You’re successful. So why does it feel like you’re not fully in control of the life you’re building?
Simple answer: you can’t control what you allow others to influence.
So when you pick up the slack at work, cover the bill that wasn’t yours, and take care of your elders and family, to the detriment of yourself, you give up a little more control every single time.
Dr. Cheryl Woods-Giscombé, a researcher who’s spent her career studying this specifically in Black women, calls it the Superwoman Schema.
That same Superwoman Schema shows up in your relationships too, platonic and romantic. You keep ending up with the ones who need fixing, and the friendships where you give more than you get back. Not because you’re drawn to a mess, but because fixing is the one role you’ve always known how to play well, so it’s the one you slip into without noticing how much control you’ve handed over.
Underneath all of it is exhaustion. It shortens your fuse with the people who deserve it least, including yourself. Then the guilt kicks in, and you overcorrect and overperform yourself right back into exhaustion.
None of this is a flaw in you.
It’s just what happens when you’ve been the one holding it down for as long as you can remember.
Lived, not theorized
Firstborn daughter. Eldest. Raised by a First myself.
Growing up I was quick to say “yes ma’am” when my mom called from the other room. Quick to help with dinner, quick to watch my younger siblings, quick to be useful before anyone had to ask twice.
That same “I got it” energy took me into a career in big tech: Google, then TikTok. All the way to a 7-figure business of my own, features in Essence, on stage at Black Enterprise.
It also got me a few crash and burn moments. Late diagnosed AuDHD. High blood pressure, anxiety, and mild depression that all require medication to manage. And like any stubborn First, I am still here. Still building. Just finally doing so with support and the holistic understanding of the implications of my decisions.
Nobody warns you there’s a bill. My body chose when mine was due. Yours will choose for you too. I built this space so you get to prioritize yourself before it costs you what it cost me.
- Shaque'l
WHAT CHANGES AT THE TABLE
EVERYTHING.
Hyper-independence stops being your default.
It's not a personality trait, it's a survival skill. You learned early that the fastest way to get something done right was to do it yourself. But doing everything alone has a ceiling. Here you're around people capable enough to trust, so letting go feels like relief instead of risk.
Reciprocity becomes the standard, not the exception.
Being taken care of is probably strange to you, so you fight it. You say you're fine. You deflect. You try to even the score, because that's the only version you've known. Here, help isn't a debt. You were always worth the effort.
Opportunities brought straight to your door.
The best opportunities were never public. They move quietly through people who thought of somebody they knew. Here you gain proximity to people who know your work well enough to say your name in a room you're not in. A stack of business cards could never!
Saying yes becomes a choice, never a reflex.
Covering the bill. Loaning the money. Showing up for something you had no capacity for. Here you learn to pause first and answer from overflow, in a room full of people who don't require your sacrifice as collateral.
Prioritizing yourself stops feeling selfish.
You are allowed to want things. Loudly, specifically, without justifying it. Rest, money, the softer life, the bigger goal, all of it. Here, that's the baseline. Welcome to the table where we'll tell you to decide what you want, then ask for more.
Rest becomes intentional instead of your body and mind collapsing.
Nobody here is impressed by how much you can endure. The Firsts take care of each other and sometimes that looks like somebody telling you to sit your ass down...and means it with love.
The Firsts’ Table
WHERE THE FIRSTS FINALLY GET TO BE FIRST
Grown Folks Business
Monthly live sessions with vetted experts on wealth, negotiation, careers, and dating when you're the one out-earning everybody - whatever the room actually needs that month
Why it matters: You stop learning everything the expensive way. The raise you didn't ask for, the credit you didn't fix, the years you spent guessing and all the mistakes made along the way.
Systems of Care
A monthly practice built around your body, your mind, and the warning signs you've been ignoring, without asking you to become a different person.
Why it matters: You can't out-earn a health crisis or negotiate your way out of one. The crash isn't a maybe, it's a matter of when. This is how you make sure you're healthy, happy, and feeling as good as your life looks.
Open Table
Live co-working and mixers alongside women building at your speed. Real time to work on your goals, with none of the forced small talk.
Why it matters: Real friendships and real networks are built by showing up more than once. One woman in this room can open doors you couldn't have found on your own. This is already scheduled, so it costs you nothing but showing up for yourself.
The Resource Library
Word-for-word scripts and ready-made templates for the conversations and decisions you can't Google your way through.
Why it matters: You don’t need to keep starting from scratch every time you have to negotiate, set a boundary, make a move, or say the hard thing. These resources help you walk into the moment prepared, say what you mean, and stop second-guessing yourself after.
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